Life is like a labyrinth. The more you try to find the way out, more you get lost. Sometimes you get confused to find the way out and at times, you think the path you are trying to follow is right and you end up coming at wrong end. Post marriage session of my life is becoming little complex for me and I am struggling to find the correct way out.
As a bachelor the mathematical equation of my life was simple and it had only few variables. Moreover, the variables like Mom and dad were predictable and use to vary under certain range. The range use to vary from health to education. Only complex variable was my own mood swings. Being with myself for so many years, the mood swings were also predictable and somehow manageable. With all these predictable variables the equation of my life was linear.
Marriage has changed the mathematical equation of my life and has added many new variables. Most important is your better half and then comes her family. The first impression suggests simply that variables have just doubled but in reality instead of double (2x) it is square (x2). How?? Well, because the two families are integrated, it has certain reaction. I mean two linear equation are multiplied not added. It is an AND rule instead of OR. If one equation was (aX + bY+ cZ = Myself) where a, b, c are constant and X, Y, Z are linear predictable variable. X = Dad, Y = Mom, Z= Others. Similarly, (iL+jM+kN = Betterhalf). Hence, the marriage equation of
Post Marriage equation = (aX + bY+ cZ) (iL+jM+kN). Now for argument shake, if we take the best case i.e. both the parents are comfortable with each other and are similar i.e. we assume it as our dad and mom and relatives i.e. X = L, Y = M, Z = N. Let us assume that even the constant a = b = c = i = j = k = 1.
Hence, Myself & Better Half = (X+Y+ Z) (X+Y+ Z) = X2+Y2+Z2+2(XY+XZ+YZ).
=> (X+X+X) (X+X+X) => (3x) (3x)
Look, even the most simplified form post marriage mathematical equation is at minimum 9 times complex than bachelor life. If on top of this I add one more variable my kid, it becomes 16 times more complex. So vinit, don’t loose your heart under the circumstances you both are doing well. Cheer up and just keep trying and moving. The role is new and as time progresses you’ll learn to handle so many complex variable. Also please note that the whole equation is function of time. The more you spend time together, the more you will learn to handle it properly. Infact it is the measure of your post marriage session. To conclude, since so many variables have been added in life, it is natural for you both to feel the heat. Please don’t succumb to the pressure and keep trying your best. Remerber words of Wisdom by your friend who once said " More important than managing difference is appreciating difference because it helps to create everlasting balance in the system"
2 comments:
Lage Raho Vinit..whenever you feel like giving up.. Dil pe haath rakh le bolna "AAL IS WELL" and then give a jadoo ki jhappi to all your variables :-).
Marriage life is a psychological treatment of all the variables making it as mandatory (by giving more responsibilities to all the variables).
If you feel variables are increasing and decreasing then declare it as XML. So that you can add/edit/delete variables (nodes) as per your moods.
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